30 Day Modesty Challenge Final Lessons & Favorite Outfits

Here it is! My final week of the challenge.

Here are a few lessons I took from the 30 days:

1. I am not perfect

Sometimes the problem we get ourselves into is thinking that we are supposed to be perfect all the time, but if we continue this thinking it can be dangerous. This extends even to our health, which is what happened to me earlier this year. My body is never going to look as the world will see it “perfect”. But to God? I am a slab of gold which is purified through fire, and has to be continuously purified until the reflection the goldsmith sees in the gold…is Himself. I am imperfect, God is not. That’s the lesson.

2. Prayer, Prayer, then more Prayer

The most important part of the challenge was growing in my prayer life. Those conversations with God, and Him opening up my heart to see what’s truly in there, showed me the reality of why I felt called to join the challenge. It wasn’t because I needed a fashion makeover, although that was definitely needed, but because I needed to remember my own dignity.
“It is not fancy hair, gold jewelry, or fine clothes that make you beautiful. No, your beauty should come from within you- the beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit. This beauty will never disappear, and it is worth very much to God. -1 Peter 3:3
My clothes needed to reflect the dignity that I found in Christ.

3. Modest doesn’t mean frumpy- It never did

Shortly after my blog was shared on Chastity Project’s site, there were numerous articles week after week detailing issues about modesty. This was really awesome to see because by my observation it was the modesty challenge which opened up communication on the subject. One blog talked about their problem with the “M” word. Modesty means frumpy clothes that doesn’t give you any shape, isn’t cute, but outwardly portrays your holiness. The challenge was meant to breakdown these stereotypical walls for modesty! For me, it was to make the clothes I love both modest and fashionable. Guess what? You can totally do it! Modesty doesn’t mean wearing turtlenecks or dresses that make you look like a box. No way! You can wear cute clothes! It just has to be a mindset that “What I’m wearing will honor My Lord.” Or a question of, “Would I wear this in front of My God?”. Our Lord wants you to look beautiful! He created you that way! Don’t be afraid of the “M” word, it doesn’t mean you can’t be yourself in your own fashionable way! Challenge yourself to be creative when it comes to modest outfits! Don’t be afraid to show your beautiful femininity!

4. Modesty strengthens us in Chastity

Modesty and chastity are two sides of the same coin. My desire to live out my promise of purity for my husband means that I want to be representing myself in a dignified way. A quote I really love that speaks to this says, “Dress how you want other women dressing around your husband”. For me? As my prayer life increased, my positivity about chastity increased as well. Modesty isn’t just meant for me to understand that my dignity is from God, and not in the clothes I wear. It is also for my future spouse. I wear clothes that, although still show my femininity, will provide mystery for my husband to unravel. On my wedding day I want to wear white, and mean it. I want to be the gift he has to unwrap.

5. It starts with just ONE

Changing a lifestyle doesn’t happen over night. But all it takes is one person, one day of courage, or one moment of surrender. That’s where it begins. God filled Mary’s heart because of one word… Fiat.

What is your ONE moment going to be? Will you say yes?

My Top 10 Outfits in the 30 Days

1.  Date Night Out

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2. Yes, you can still wear that shorty short dress- just as a shirt.

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3. No more uncomfortable yanking! Strapless dress win.

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4.  Modest at 14,000 Feet

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5. Sunday Best

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6. Can’t go wrong with a jean shirt and maxi skirt

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7. Colors of Summer

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8. Accessorize & Simple Style

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9. Sunday Best Part II

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10. It isn’t how you start, it’s how you finish.

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Thank you for your prayers! I am still praying for all the women participating in the challenge and those who will eventually join!

Although this challenge may be over for me, doesn’t mean my journey is anywhere near over! Another challenge begins for me. Please pray for me and trust I will be praying for you as well!

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To the ends of the earth would you follow Me?

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The road to sanctification is tough. It isn’t a flat road with wild flowers on each side, but rather a rough and rocky path. Although this path may be tough, where it leads is what matters.

Saint Maria Faustina had a vision of two paths….

“…I saw two roads. One was broad, covered with sand and flowers, full of joy, music and all sorts of pleasures. People walked along it, dancing and enjoying themselves. They reached the end without realizing it. And at the end of the road there was a horrible precipice; that is, the abyss of hell. The souls fell blindly into it; as they walked, so they fell. And their number was so great that it was impossible to count them. And I saw the other road, or rather, a path, for it was narrow and strewn with thorns and rocks; and the people who walked along it had tears in their eyes, and all kinds of suffering befell them. Some fell down upon the rocks, but stood up immediately and went on. At the end of the road there was a magnificent garden filled with all sorts of happiness and all these souls entered there. At the very first instant they forgot all their sufferings” (Diary 153).

I learned a lot about these two paths while hiking two of Colorado’s beautiful peaks. Although I didn’t cry, doesn’t mean I didn’t want to at some points.

I know. This sounds pathetic.

While we were hiking up the steepest part of the mountain, every muscle in my legs were aching and tired. Then to my left I look over to see my boyfriend who was taking it all like a champ! Smiling, laughing, and even joking as we are working our way through the rocks! Each time we stopped because of my tired legs I would immediately look over to him and say “Sorry. I’m just such a wimp.” To this he would look at me with the same sweet grin and say, “It’s not meant to be easy”.

We made it through the rocky and narrow part to reach the summit, and how sweet it was! There’s something beautiful about being above the clouds. It felt almost as if Heaven was within reach. Through the celebration and the peace felt on top of that mountain, I found some clarity about the road to Sainthood.

Tim was right. “It’s not meant to be easy”.

In the spiritual life, we as a people avoid pain because it hurts and at times leaves us feeling a sense of brokenness. We wish pain away but cease to recognize what pain does to us. It prepares us for the goodness that we taste in happiness and joy. Anyone who has run long distance will tell you that the pain they felt during the run was worth the exhilaration they felt afterwards. We feel a sense of joy and satisfaction when we reach that summit, especially knowing the hard task that it took for us to get to that point!

The question remains, why is it that we feel the full extent of pain and it seems never ending, yet happiness and joy seem to pass quickly? I experienced this. The joy of being above the clouds lasted a good while but then there was the realization that we still had yet another peak to climb, and a long road down the mountain, away from the breath taking view, and beneath the clouds that would be waiting for us. Venerable Fulton Sheen explains that this lasting pain and fleeting happiness occurs because, “pain was meant to be exhausted in this life. Joys are not, because they belong to another existence”.

Joy and happiness will be fulfilled where pain ceases to exist… Heaven.

The suffering that we feel here on earth has no place in Heaven! Isn’t that wonderful? We suffer because we are allowed to suffer here and must do so for Christ and with Christ. Our spiritual life will make us feel pain at times, so how do we make that pain bearable?

We love.

Tim demonstrated this perfectly on our hike. Without annoyance or comparison he lifted my spirits when I was down. He showed me that even though we feel pain we can still smile, laugh, and joke. We learn to love more thoroughly and completely when we love during the most painful times of our lives. Seriously… If this isn’t some amazing marriage prep, I don’t know what is.

The road to Sainthood is a road to Calvary. Whatever your cross may be; chastity, sobriety, modesty, faith, or so on. Realize that the summit is there! You are making your way when you choose the rough path to rid yourself of temptation and sin! Don’t let the devil tell you that you’re so far away it would be better to turn around, because if you turn around now you will miss out on the beauty that awaits.

If Heaven is to be far greater than being high above the clouds in beautiful Colorado, I can only imagine how beautiful it will be! Now’s your chance to decide…

Which path will you take? 

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365 Days of Love Notes | Take 4

If you don’t know about this link up series I’m participating in check out storyofarose.com !

July 14th through July 19th

Monday

-On Monday my day began with watching my little nephew Miles. Because my grandma from Texas was in I was able to watch the little man! Playing hide and seek with him literally brings out the child in me. He shows me the love of a child so transparently and taught me the love that Our Lord must have for His children.

Tuesday

-On Tuesday I grabbed a cup of coffee with a friend of mine! Our Lord was showing me the fruits of continuing to work in His vineyard.

Wednesday

-On Wednesday I enjoyed a day with my baby niece and nephews!!

Thursday

-On Thursday I had some much needed an exciting news for my new modesty project 30 days modesty challenge! Keep a lookout for the details 🙂 Check out my blog “30 Day Modesty Challenge” for more info and consider joining me in this challenge!

Friday

-On Friday I had a date night with my boy! It included a nice gluten free dinner (still getting used to him being gluten free), a walk, some live music, and an awesome fireside chat with my sister and her boyfriend.

Saturday

– On Saturday it was eventful! I went on a beautiful (but tiring) hike with my boy! Which included an embarrassing bloody nose moment where I learned how modest TRULY is hottest. My bloody nose got my t-shirt all bloody and the only other shirt I had with me was a waterproof jacket. I had to wear that in 90 degree weather…. One word… HOT. But Gods beauty and the conversation I was able to have with my handsome guy made that day pretty awesome! Along with a pretty wonderful gender reveal party for my older sister! Guess what? I’m going to have another baby NEPHEW! Fun fun stuff!

Sunday

– Sunday. Beautiful relaxing day where I got to worship The Lord I love and hang out with my family! Also, I watched the movie “Gimme Shelter”. If you haven’t seen it…. Do it. Seriously. I’ll be writing a blog review on it! Keep on the lookout!

30 Day Modesty Challenge | Week 1

I have been praying for all of you women who have joined me so far in the 30 day modesty challenge! It’s never to late for you to join and make sure that you document at least once so that the other ladies can get some more ideas of modest clothing!

Remember the most important thing you can do during these 30 days is to pray. Modesty reveals the dignity of the woman, which is a perfect reflection of Our Lord.

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In need of suggestions for prayer? Are you struggling with this aspect of the challenge?

Here are a few of my favorite prayers or types of prayer:

-The Rosary- Ask for the intercession of Our Lady to help you become a woman of the Lord that she was!

-Sing the Chaplet of Divine Mercy (Here’s a link to the song version on YouTube)

-Read a religious book. The book I’m reading is “On Being Human” by Fulton Sheen. A really great recommendation would be either “The World’s First Love” by Fulton Sheen or “I believe in Love” by Fr. Jean C. J. d’ Elbe.

-Read today’s readings and try to WRAP yourself in scripture. Write, Reflect, Apply, and Pray. You can do this is a prayer journal if you have one… If you don’t have a spiritual journal I highly recommend you get one!

– Pray the St. Bonaventure prayer everyday

There are many other ways to pray! What matters? That you’re diving into your relationship with Our Lord and communicating with Him… as you can see there are MANY ways to do that!

MODEST DRESS WEEK 1

Here are the modest clothing that I wore for this first week! Remember if you need ideas go ahead and follow me on Instagram (kileenwillis) and Pinterest! Check out the woman who are posting their photos as well with the hashtag #30daysmodestychallenge !

Day 1

Day 1 Modesty Challenge

On day 1, I wore a plain black t shirt with some Bermuda shorts. I have found that Bermuda shorts are the perfect length for my legs. Don’t forget to accessorize! What can really style up an outfit is adding some pretty earrings or in this case a headband! Have fun with it and be creative! As G.K Chesterton said, “Modesty IS beautiful!”.

Day 2

Day 2 Modesty Challenge

 On day 2, I set out to go worship Our Lord at Mass. I LOVE maxi skirts. Seriously. They are the perfect length and you can mix and match them to make them fit for the Summer, Fall, Winter, or Spring. Also, at Mass I have found a love for “veiling” to continue to be modest in front of Our Lord. If you are curious about what “veiling” is or you are interested in making this step check out my post about it here. Remember you were born to be REAL, not to be PERFECT!

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Day 3 Modesty Challenge

On Day 3, I mixed and match some bright colors while also adding some fun accessories. I have found a good rule with tank tops is that if you can see ‘under garments’ it’s probably not the most modest shirt, but don’t worry! You can easily make it modest by wearing a shirt underneath! Always remember Our Lady when thinking about beauty. You will become humbled and be able to perceive where true beauty lies…. when our identity is in Christ.

Day 4

Day 4 of Modesty Challenge

On day 4, I was matching with one of my favorite guys! My nephew/godson and I were matching in our light blue jean and yellow shirts. Simple is never a bad thing! I love just wear a comfortable V-neck shirt and adding some fun accessories.

Day 5

Day 5 Modesty Challenge

On a cool day the Bermuda shorts and comfortable quarter sleeve shirt was a win! I accessorized with a thin belt around my waist and some earrings to match. Sometimes dressing modestly or making that transition can be uncomfortable, but great things never came from comfort zones! Don’t be afraid! As Our Pope Emeritus (Pope Benedict XVI) would say; “We are not called for comfort, we are called for greatness”.

Day 6

Day 6 Modesty Challenge

Like any normal girl I don’t really feel like dressing up e v e r y d a y. I am a sweats and t shirt kind of girl too! For those active girls I know how tempting it can be to workout in only your sports bra. I understand the predicament. But our modesty challenge also includes gym and pool time! We want to respect ourselves and others when we are at the gym or out tanning by the pool!

Day 7

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Date night!! Obviously it’s natural for a girl to want to dress up on the night of a date! My advice is to dress how you want other women dressing around your future spouse! Mix and match is always a good way to dress up or dress down depending on what you’re going to be doing that night… If you’re looking for nice and long skirts that fit more of that “pencil” look without it being super tight I would recommend going to Old Navy! They have really cute options that make mix and matching a bit easier!

I am praying for you all! Please pray for me as well!

30 Day Modesty Challenge

Challenge time beautiful ladies of the Lord! In our culture now a days it seems that it is much easier for us to dress immodestly than modestly. So here’s my challenge…

Dress modestly for 30 days.

Instagram it with the hashtag #30daymodestychallenge . (Yes… take some selfies. No judgement)

Pray about it and see what happens!

Question time… Why did I decide to take this challenge on?

A. During the hot months of summer I have noticed my desire to wear clothing that is not as modest because of convenience, but I want to change that thinking around! For me… I want to not only respect myself but I want to respect those around me! This is what modest dressing does… allows men to feel safe and women to allow the men to see their dignity within. Jason Evert said, “Women, modesty means you have beauty and power. And you use that to teach men how to love you for the right reasons”. THIS is why I am doing this challenge! And why I would like you to join me!! Modesty reveals the inner beauty while also allowing for the women to still cling to her femininity. How great is that!

What are some modesty guidelines?

A. Layering is always good! Make sure that your most private parts of your body are veiled. Shirts too low or shorts too high could be avoided. Shorts that are right above the knee are usually best, but trust me I know how hard it is to find some that fit “modest” standards. It may take some digging but I’m sure you can find some that work! If all else fails? Make some skirts or shorts yourself! Its really fun and cost efficient. Another suggestion, as women our stomach area is sacred and will eventually contain life, therefore it’d be best to cover it up!

Kileen, I’ve seen some modest clothing… It’s not cute. What can I do to style it up?

A. If you need some ideas check out my Pinterest profile! I’ll be updating it with my 30 Day Modesty Challenge board! Also the Instagrams will help give some ideas!!

I’ll be posting every week through the duration of the challenge! Let’s bring back a culture of modesty!

I’ll be praying for you, please pray for me!

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